Posts Tagged ‘Fun’
Let’s assume you have your fun list. The question then becomes, how do you make time for all of this fun, especially when our lives are already so busy?
First of all, I want to emphasize the importance of including Fun into your life every day. How often do you spend your day operating from a state of auto pilot, that you totally miss out on even the simple pleasures of life?
One of the easiest ways to “find more time for fun” is to simply learn how to be present or in the moment. Science shows that we spend 95% of our time operating from our subconscious mind, or from a state of auto pilot, and only 5% in our conscious mind. I remember driving my car while talking on the phone one time, only to find that I had missed my exit miles and miles back and I had no idea where I even was anymore. I’ll bet you have had a similar experience. I certainly wasn’t driving consciously.
Secret #1: Spend more time in your Conscious State of Mind:
- By simply learning how to become conscious or present, you will expand time simply because you will be able to enjoy more of it. For example, when you are walking, sitting in a meeting or or at your computer, simply notice your breathing and your body. Notice what is going on around you. Notice smells, sounds, and sights. Stop day dreaming and stay in your body. Starting your day out with meditation or yoga or a simple walk where you are really conscious can really help you become more mindful for the rest of the day.
Secret #2: Find ways to Combine Activities:
- When you look at your Fun List, identify ways to combine activities like fitness, family, friends, hobbies, travel, freedom and even work. I call this system the Perfect Life Filter and here is an example: I need to exercise and I love going to yoga, so I could invite my daughter or a friend to join me for yoga. This way, I can spend time with my loved ones and also create time for self care. One of my favorite ways I have combined my Fun List is by leading my Costa Rica Retreat which allows me to travel and experience adventure, yoga, nature, spirituality, fresh tropical fruits and to play with my friends and clients all in a tropical paradise. How can you do this for yourself with your list?
Secret #3: Take out your Calendar and Schedule It:
- I once read a story about filling up a big jar with these containers of water, sand and rocks. If you don’t do the process in the right order, all three items won’t fit. The secret is starting with the “big rocks”, then sand, and finally the water. His analogy of the adding the Big Rocks first has to do with planning your most important events first and this is the time for self care, loved ones and fun. I use a similar process in my Perfect Life Time System which is a time system I have used for 10 years made up of Perfect Days, Prep Days and Power Days. In my system, I suggest planning all your Perfect Days first because these are the days that will keep you rejuvenated, healthy and happy. They are the days you are focused on self care, family and fun.
So have Fun with this process. Stay mindful, combine your fun activities and be sure to schedule your perfect days and big rocks! Enjoy!
Fun is my topic this week and I found this video so much fun to watch that I wanted to share. What is your fun theory?
Last week, I had the pure pleasure of interviewing David Bedrick, author of Talking Back to Dr. Phil. We talked about everything from weight, to anger and shame and ultimately we ended up talking about fun. In fact, he ended the show with a fabulous tip about “your magic wand”. I loved it, because we all do have one, we just fail to use it. Maybe we simply have forgotten that we have one! You can listen to the show by clicking here or subscribing to iTunes along with our 187,000 other subscribers!
Well I was so impressed with our interview, that I scheduled a private coaching session with him last week. One of the things he asked me was, “If he had a magic wand and could grant any wish I wanted, what one thing would I ask for?” This caught me off guard because I am always on the other side of the table.
Something did come up for me and it was “permission”. We found out that I wanted “Permission to have more fun in my life.” In fact, the rest of our call was all about how important “having fun” was at this point in my life. I have become so busy helping others, that I was ignoring that little girl inside of me who was calling out to play — to simply have more fun. How simple — yet profound! Is your little girl also calling out to you?
Ask yourself these questions:
- What would a little more fun do for you in your life?
- What would it even look like?
- How would your body feel if you were having more fun each day?
I love this quote:
“When you’re following your energy and doing what you want all the time, the distinction between work and play dissolves.”
Exercise: Start a “Fun List”.
Do this by listing in your journal:
- all the things you love doing
- things you would would love to do daily, next year, some time in your life
- the most fun thing you ever did in your life and why it was so fun
- hobbies that make your heart sing
- things you loved doing when you were a kid
- things you lose track of time when you do them
- and the one thing that scares you the most, yet you know if you just did it, it would change your life forever
My friend, Colleen, and I just went for a spontaneous walk this weekend, and we were talking about fun. We both agreed that one of the most fun things we ever did was “running away to Costa Rica” the day after Thanksgiving for 11 full days. We simply left our families, our company, the dishes and the turkey carcass (I usually make turkey soup!). We felt guilty (naughty) for a few minutes, and then we both agreed that it was one of the most amazing things we have ever done in our lives. We had no agenda, no watches, just time for complete pleasure, adventure and fun.
Now we can’t all take off to Costa Rica any time we want to, but we can make time for more little pockets of fun in our lives. Think of ways you can make your work more fun. Next week, we will talk about actually making the time for all of this!
Good luck and please let us hear from you. Tell us “how you are creating more fun in your life!” What are you committed to?
Being a serial workaholic (it’s easy to do when you love your work!) I can tell you that putting in the long hours and sacrificing your family, friends, and fun is not worth it. Sure it may help your business, but if you have no time to enjoy the benefits then is it really helping? You need a good combination of both.
With the New Year just around the corner many people start to think about changes they want to make in their lives. Maybe you’re finally ready to start that business or take your current business to the next level. Maybe it’s to finally lose that last 10 pounds, eat better, and start exercising. Or maybe it’s not really change you seek but a way to freshen up your life. In any case, it’s important to make time to play.
I created this exercise several years ago and it seems like the right time to talk about it again. I work with so many entrepreneurs who just don’t make the time for themselves. Why is it that we have no problem scheduling an hour for a meeting but can’t seem to find the time to schedule an hour for a massage? They are both important – one for your business and one for your health.
This exercise is called “The Perfect Life Filter™”. The purpose of this exercise is to help take a look at the different areas of our lives that are important to us:
If we are out of balance with any one of these areas it will affect the other areas.
Let me give you an example: I tend to get very focused on work (because my work is one of my passions) but when I do then I ignore my heath and my family.
I have worked through an entire weekend!
This is certainly not the way to develop deep and meaningful relationships with my family and friends and in the long run…it ends up not being that much fun either.
Think about your life and what’s important to you. How can you combine your goals to leverage your time and energy? Here are some examples of how to do this for yourself. And please share your results with us by commenting below.
Take a moment now and list your goals for each of the following areas:
• Family Goals: (ex: Deepen Relationships)
• Fitness Goals: (ex: Self Care – Energy)
• Finance Goals: (ex: Security – Abundance)
• Fun Goals: (ex: Joy – Experiences)
• Freedom Goals: (ex: Self Expression)
Now think of ways you can combine more than one goal to leverage your time.
- Family & Fun: Family Vacations.
- Fitness & Fun: Join a yoga or zumba class, or train for that marathon you always wanted to run.
- Family & Fitness: Go to the park with the family, ride bikes or go for a walk.
- Finances & Freedom: Make sure your finances are taken care of and your money is working for you. (if you need help in this area contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org)
- Freedom & Fun: Travel.
If you have to schedule time for fun then do it. It will hopefully become a habit and you won’t have to schedule it anymore, it will just come naturally.
Remember…all work and no play makes us unhappy, unhealthy, and drains our energy.
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This is a genius idea by Volkswagen! I was struck by two reasons:
- My husband is in the Detroit Symphony Orchestra – and making classical music fun is always a great idea!
- How can we bring more joy and fun into our lives and the lives of others?
When I retired in 2007 to follow my dream of helping people make a difference in the world through their dreams, their work and their legacies, I promised myself one thing: If it wasn’t fun, I wasn’t going to do it. I have been following that dream with my writing, speaking and coaching all from my home. It’s been wonderful. Now this March, I am leading my first Reinvention and Rejuvination Retreat in Panama!
Fun has a special energy to it. Just a few minutes of joy every morning creates special hormones in the body that stay with you for hours!
Watch the movie, Life is Beautiful and imagine what would have happened if the dad had not made the experience a “game” for his son. The game, play and fun helped everyone stay focused on saving this little boy. Here are some things that I do every day to help me stay in a state of joy and gratitude:
- Create a daily ritual of getting up early and reading inspirational material – even 15-20 minutes.
- Keep a Gratitute and Celebrations Journal – and write in it first thing every morning and before bed.
- Take a little time out each day to simply stop what you are doing to be present, notice how your body is feeling and check your breathing.
- If you can – get out in nature and take a short walk and just be present. Listen and stop thinking.
- Smile. Think about is, as soon as you smile, you change your energy and everyone around you.
- Be kind to yourself and to others.
None of this requires a club membership, going anywhere or spending any money. It’s all free and will make a huge difference in your life.
Ask your self what else could you get people to do by making it fun?
I’d love to hear your thoughts about how you make life more fun. Thank you…
With joy and gratitude,
Katana Abbott, CFP, CSA
Midlife Millionaire Coach