regretHave you ever said to yourself, “If only I could go back and change this one thing, my life would have been so different?” You can fill in the blank.

What if you were supposed to have that experience as part of your soul journey and no matter how hard you may have tried, it was inevitable that it was going to happen…almost like a contract you made with yourself or another person. Think about this for a moment.

This is one of my favorite quotes:

“Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.” ~ Victoria Holt

Besides…it’s always perfect…the good and the bad. Have you ever noticed that when you are in the thick of things, feeling overwhelmed yet when you look back, it’s almost like a dream?

They say, “Time heals all wounds” and that’s why when you look back at a negative experience and look for the gift in the situation, the whole experience can take on new meaning. But there are those few instances that are really stubborn. The worst one is Regret. You really want to learn how to release this one because it will suck the life out of you and attract only more sorrow, self pity and resentment.

I’m a contributing author in a book called, Thank God I, and my chapter is Thank God My Father Died when I was six and I was Abused. In the chapter, I write about the experience of losing my dad and then growing up with an abusive step-father for 9 years, followed by an abusive husband at just 19. Yes, we often go back to the familiar.

Although this experience was so terrible that I would never want to live through it again, I was able to find the gift and to forgive my parents for abandoning me…and my abusers. I did the work through a remarkable weekend program, and when I did it was like a huge weight was lifted out of my body.

For a big part of my life, I carried this regret and resentment around and it simply sucked the life out of me. It wasn’t until I did the work to forgive and to release and find the gift, that I was able to make room for a totally new life…and it happened rather fast. I now have an amazing life.

Now that I look back, I can see the hand of God or Source at work…with all kinds of synchronistic events. There is not time today to walk you through the magic that happened, but I’ve written about it and it was magical.

Remember, what we focus on expands, so here are three tips to keep you in joy:

1. Focus on what you want.

2. Release what is no longer serving you.

3. And find the gift in adversity.

Such simple tips…yet they work beautifully!

There are exercises you can do to make this happen and I have taken 100s of clients through this process. If you want help, please feel free to reach out to me after the show at katana@katanaabbott.com.