We have all said to ourselves one-time-or-another, “If only this had not happened, my life would have been so much better or different.” Think about it. Then we sit there and regret the bad experience that we had, brooding about it and mulling it over in our heads over and over, until it becomes “our story” Here are some sentence starters…you can fill in the rest:
- If only I had finished college, then
- If only I hadn’t married him, then
- If only I had left earlier, then
- If only I had been stricter with her, then
- If only I had never let him into our lives, then
- If only I had stayed where I was, I would never have
We’ve all done this at one time or another, right? Now take a look at these two quotes below and think about what you have learned from those experiences…
- “Never regret. If its good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.” ~ Victoria Holt
- “One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you.” ~ Merle Shain
Do you feel a shift? What if you could take every single bad experience in your life and find the gift in it? What amazing things did you learn? Who else did you meet from that experience? How has it made you who you are? How much wiser are you? What can you do with what you learned from this experience?
Do you know that many people actually discover their life purpose during their most desperate hours. It’s during these dark times, that they discover their strength and unique abilities, they find out just how tough and smart they are, they discover things about themselves that never would have been exposed otherwise. It’s in these experiences, that my clients often find their niche or who they are to serve or their big WHY in their business and what makes them unique and the “Expert”.
I call it Your MBA in Life Experience. And often when you end up with debt from your mistakes – shift the energy there as part your your tuition…again part of the MBA of life. See how that works for you.
Get out a pen and paper, and break your lifetime out into decades like this:
- 1958 – 1968 Ages 1-10
- 1969 – 1979 Ages 11-21 (and so on)
No go through each decade and write down the significant events and experiences that happened to you, how they affected and transformed your life and made you who you are today. I did this a while back and it was life changing. One of the most amazing things I learned from doing this for myself was how my early childhood expierences really created the groundwork for almost everything that I am doing today. I could never had learned these things in school, and every single step, mistake, experience (good and bad) were all part of this amazing dance.
We all know that when we are learning to dance that sometimes the music is fabulous and other times, it’s just not right. Sometimes, we are spinning with joy and other times, we get our toes stepped on…and of course there are the times we fall flat on our face. What’s the secret? It’s to learn from all of this and to be grateful for every single moment because at one point, we reach mastery and we are at the top of our game and everything is flowing and it all makes sense. Yes, it can take months, years, even a full lifetime, but it’s all perfect.
When I discovered the gift, I became a contributing author in the book, “Thank God I – Volume 2” and my chapter was, “Thank God I Was Abused”. I was able to find the gift in being abandoned and abused. I was able to heal and then use that experience to create wealth for myself and others all while making a difference in the world. Now what could be more perfect than that?
Please take some time to do this exercise and share your experiences below. We would love to hear from you and learn about your soul’s journey!
If you feel inspired and are ready to take a huge leap in your life, feel free to contact me at www.talkwithkatana.com