No matter what our life circumstances may be, every one of us longs for something better, something more. We think, though, that we are different than those that already have what we desire. We think we have to work hard and long to achieve even the smallest amount of success. The truth is, we can have it without years of blood, sweat and tears, if we understand five basic principals or “secrets to creating our Perfect Life. The secrets are:
Secret #1: Clarity Visualize your Perfect Life:
The number one reason people fail to get what they want, is that they dont even have a clear vision of what they really want. Often we just continue to live day by day without adequate focus. Exercise:
Close your eyes and visualize you life three years from now¦you are getting ready to go somewhere and have a huge smile on your face¦Why are you smiling? What are you doing? What are you wearing? Where are you living? How does it feel? Who are you in a relationship with?
Write down what you were thinking and what your life looked like in this exercise; then write down what has to happen in the next three years for you to be feel that way every day?
Secret #2: Identify whats not working in your life:
The things that are not working in your personal life are showing up in your financial life. The things that are not working in your financial life are showing up in your personal life. Consider whats happening for you:
- Financially are you in debt? Do you have cash reserves? Are you saving 10 percent? Personally are you growing? Do you wake up excited to start the day?
- Career are you passionate about your job or career? Why?
- Health are you taking care of yourself? Are you making time for yourself? Are you living with Joy, Purpose, Passion and Purpose?
- Relationships do you have great relationships?
Lets take a look at a recent Smart Women Survey to over 200 women, “What is the single biggest Challenge holding you back from living your Perfect Life?
- 32% Financial
- 22% Dont Know Where to Start
- 12% Confidence
- 10% Time
- 7% Relationships
- 3% Health
- 14% Other
What is holding you back from living your perfect life? Identify things that you can control in your life and start with one thing.
Secret #3: Make a Decision to Change and Prepare for Resistance¦FEAR:
Resistance comes out in statements such as: “Im too busy, Ill do it later, This is boring, its not my thing, I meant to, but I forgot.. and other excuses.
Recognize that these are excuses, and you are in resistance craving the comfort of the familiar. Your challenge is to accept temporary discomfort for the opportunity to change and grow. Your family and friends may not support you, but when you embrace your fear and walk through the door of uncertainty, youll come face-to-face with your personal power and have control over your own life. Write down what you are going to do now¦What are you committed to? Now watch for the magic and coincidences!
Secret #4: Create a Game Plan by Creating Written Goals:
Create a list of clearly defined goals. You may not think this important, but a Harvard Study showed that 30 years after graduation, the 3 percent of students who had written goals were more successful than the other 97 percent combined, and were also healthier and happier.
Make separate lists for personal goals, family/friends goals, financial and career goals. This is an important step in the holistic approach to financial freedom and being “in your power. Write your goals in the present tense, print them out, review them daily. We get what we focus on, so focus on what you want not what you dont want. Write out your goals now, and then rewrite them in present tense (as an affirmation).
Secret #5: Find Support/Get Help/Hold yourself Accountable
Educate yourself. Read books on personal growth, financial planning, whatever areas you feel you need to explore. Register for classes and seminars. Hire a financial planner or a coach. Join or create a support group, such as those at WebMD or Smart Womens Coaching.
Questions: How will you build your support community? How will you handle negativity, fear and rejection?
Your Perfect Life will not come about overnight. It is a process, one that comes about from understanding the power of our thoughts and focused action. Put these five “secrets into practice in your life, and you will achieve your Perfect Life!
|Katana Abbott, CFP, CSA is a Midlife Millionaire Coach and Co-founder of Smart Womens Coaching. After a 20-year career and building a successful financial planning business and managing over $100 million in assets placing her in the top 1% of money managers nationally, Katana retired financially independent to follow her dream of helping women experience true joy and abundance by following their passion in life.
She is the host of Smart Women Talk Radio and is currently writing her new book, “Secrets from a Midlife Millionaire: How to Create a Millionaire Lifestyle While Following Your Passion. Katana is a contributing author in the books Thank God I, and Breaking Through. Visit her new Free online Community: www.SmartWomensCafe.com to receive access to bestselling authors, 24/7 Library, member forum, their six virtual tea rooms AND to receive your Free Report on Goals by Smart Womens Coaching Contributing Expert, Brian Tracy (a $100 value)!